The verb encourage is generally used to reflect positive attributes.
Its many definitions have uplifting motives such as for example to inspire, to praise, to applaud or to boost. Generally when the word is used it implies a sense of wanting the best for the receiver of the action of the word.
We offer compliments to encourage someone facing difficult circumstances such as the loss of things important like life, property, relationships or health.
Too, when a good word is needed to help someone achieve success such as passing a test, completing an important project or overcoming a bad habit we employ this versatile word or its equivalents.
We all like to be on the receiving end of the word. But this is not always true because the word can be used in adverse ways.
The Sunday School class I attend has a teacher who encourages each member’s participation meaning that occasionally a student might get off the subject which can be good at times because participation means he is listening and has something to say. Mostly it has some relevance to the lesson or perhaps not. The good news is that at least he/she feels comfortable enough to speak.
His remarks led to a discussion about the importance of encouragement, how it could build confidence and at times could offer critical support to someone who is in dire need. Most agreed with that line of thinking except for one class member who offered a dissenting point of view which turned out to find support among the class members most of whom could relate to his observation.
He began his comments by first stating that he lacked basic musical ability including singing.
He realized his inadequacy but nevertheless, he somehow felt compelled to take part in congregational singing although most often so that no one except himself was aware of his vocal contribution. But despite his best efforts to remain unheard, one of his friends was near enough to him that she overheard his off key attempt to offer praise in song.
Previously stated was that encouragement mostly is directed toward positive terms but in this case, another side of the word is presented.
After the hymn was sung, she leaned over to him and whispered, “Bob, let me encourage you NOT to sing, please, because your singing is definitely neither uplifting nor joyful.”
Sometimes the truth/encouragement hurts.
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Bill Lee, PO Box 128,
Hamer, SC 29547
